A good public speaking course will help you avoid the five major mistakes that most public speakers tend to make. You will learn how to create and use visual aids effectively to support your ideas. As your progress through the course you will learn how to analysis the audience on the spot to ensure that your content is relevant. A well planned out course will not try to change your current speaking skills instead it will attempt to improve upon those skills by developing you into a better public speaker. You will learn how to use natural nervousness to your advantage by allowing it to strike passion into your presentations.
Once you have completed your public speaking course your audience will never fall asleep or get up and leave on you again. The best thing about public speaking courses is that there are no pre-requisites needed to sign up for a course. No prior public speak experience is required as well. You can take courses online and even at a local college. There are also courses available in books, DVDs and even online through downloadable videos. Public speaking courses cost different prices depending on the experience of the teacher, the length of the course, the materials provided and a few other factors.
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Almost everyone experiences some form of worry one time or
another. It is a part of life. Everyday, we struggle
financially, make decisions, and face major changes in life.
These things create an inevitable occasional wave of
apprehension. Ordinarily, a certain amount of worry is essential
for our survival. It helps us to focus on the task at hand and
leads us to constructive action. However, when worry goes
overboard, instead of being a good friend, reminding us to use
good sense, worry suddenly morphs into a bully, making us crazy
about things we can’t control. Here’s a list of reasons why
constant worry is not good, if it is at all:
1. Worry is a Complete Waste of Time
Worry changes nothing. We don’t accomplish anything or find
answers to our questions by worrying. We also cannot add
anything to our life by worrying. Worry can only subtract from
our lives by causing such infirmities like ulcers or coronary
thrombosis. Worry is just muddling away today’s time to clutter
up tomorrow’s opportunities with yesterday’s troubles.
2. Worry is Unnecessary
Worry can’t erase the mistakes of the past. It can’t unravel the
answers to the future. It can’t make anything better in the
present. Hence, there is no need for worry because it is
inessential.
3. Worry Contradicts Common Sense
We must learn to live one day at a time. God has given us our
lives in units of twenty-four hours and we should take life a
day at a time. If we wish to live a long and fruitful life, we
should respect and live by the biological clock He has built
inside us.
4. Worry is Illogical
Worry is illogical because it is futile, unproductive and
pointless. It is faith in the negative, trust in the unpleasant,
assurance of disaster and belief in defeat. We do not know what
tomorrow may bring, so there is no point in worrying about it.
Why look ahead and worry about things that have not yet
happened. They may just never happen anyway.
5. Worry Creates the Problem
If we are focused on our fears, we are more likely to crash into
them. Thinking about them is a confirmation bias of their
existence making them exist even if they aren’t really there.
6. Worry Distracts Our Attention
Worry distracts us from the duties of the present. It grabs our
attention from the things of utmost importance. It interferes
with our highest functioning and delicious enjoyment of life.
Worry is an uninvited guest who spoils all our fun, making our
shoulders droop and forehead crease just when we should be
feeling triumphant or carefree or filled with hope.
7. Worry Doubles Our Problems
To anticipate future troubles by worrying about them today is to
double them. We already have enough troubles today. Today’s
problems are all we are capable of handling. Worrying for
tomorrow stacks up more problems than we can handle.
8. Worry Diverts our Point of Life
Life is far more important than material things. So often our
worries are about relatively unimportant and trivial matters,
such as food, drink, clothing, houses and cars. If we seek
fulfilment in material things, we are missing the whole point of
life. The point of life is the fulfillment of our purpose. Our
life purpose is a combination of three things: who we are at the
very core, our vision for our self and what we see possible for
the world and our values. Instead of working out for our
purpose, worry takes us away from the main stream of life
completely diverting us from our point of life.
9. Worry is Toxic to our Health
When we worry, every system in our body is affected. Blood
clotting increases, blood pressure rises, and the liver produces
more cholesterol, all of which raises our risk of heart attack
and stroke. Muscle tension gives rise to headaches, back pain,
and other body aches. It also triggers an increase in stomach
acid and either slow or speed up muscle contractions in our
intestines, which can lead to stomach aches, constipation,
diarrhea, gas or heartburn. Worry can also affect our
respiratory system by aggravating asthma.
It is a medical fact that worriers die sooner than the
non-worriers. That is because, as Dr. E. Stanley Jones says, “we
are not designed to live in fear and worry.” To live by worry is
against our own nature. That is why worry is so destructive.
10. Worry Affects the People we Love
The Greek word for “worry” is “merimnaw” which literally means
“to be drawn in different directions.” In logical terms, worry
tears us to pieces spiritually, psychologically, physically and
even socially. When we become too focused on our worries, we
forget about the things that really matters, even the people we
care. It is a constant and dominating force that disrupts our
lives and disconnects us from others.
We don’t have to deny our worries or push them out to the
limits because in reality, we can’t. It is a part of us. It is
our nature. Indeed, worry is good to some extent. It only takes
a toll on our lives if we are so consumed in it. If we hang
around it day in and day out, it can short circuit our own
electrical systems and leave us malfunctioning. We should take
control over our worries instead of letting them take control
over us. Worries are only in our head, thus it leaves us a
choice whether to allow them to propagate or just forget about
them. Sometimes, the process of worrying about a problem becomes
much bigger than the problem itself. So we often need to learn
to deal with worries head on. We should choose to think of the
present concerns and decide to do something about them instead
of simply worrying on them.
© 2005 Rachelle Arlin Credo. All rights reserved.
Do you know anyone who always wins? Sure you know that person, everything just works out for them. They go into business and they are an instant success. They enter the dating scene and their phone rings off the hook. If they were in the Olympics, you just know they wouldn’t settle for anything less than the gold. It seems as though they always win.
Why is it that some people just have IT and others seem not to? Want to learn the secret to their success? Ready? Here it comes….the secret to unstoppable success…drumroll please….Winners EXPECT to win!
That’s the big secret. Simple, huh?
But, think about it for a moment…Winners actually SEE their success BEFORE it happens! Do YOU expect to win BEFORE you have even entered a situation…or do you assess your chances AFTER you are already in the situation? Or, even worse, do you imagine failure?
BEFORE selling a piece of real estate, winners EXPECT to get their asking price. BEFORE buying a car, winners EXPECT to get a discount.
Before running an Olympic race, winners EXPECT TO WIN the gold, so they do win! This one small thing gives winners a tremendous advantage over others.
Want to be a winner?
Try this exercise…
Close your eyes for a full minute and THINK about achieving a goal in your life…go ahead, close your eyes for one minute and really THINK about achieving it.
OK, now close your eyes again for one full minute and EXPECT to get it. Did you notice a difference? When we simply THINK about getting something, our thoughts tend to be vague.
There are also two options…getting it or not getting it (winning or losing). But, when we EXPECT to get it, there is only one possibility…getting it (winning).
So now that you know the secret, the next step is applying your powerful knowledge and getting yourself to that point where YOU ALWAYS EXPECT TO WIN. I suggest that you take a full minute pause right before entering any challenging situation. During that minute, close your eyes, and imagine winning. See it, feel it, hear it, imagine yourself already having won. Guess what…you will have programmed your mind to pull you powerfully in the winning direction.
When you do enter that situation, your words and actions will be generated from a winning mindset. Your path will be straight to victory…you will already know the way and EXPECT to get there…so you WILL get there. Want a little more help with this?
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Until next time,
Live in abundant possibility!
About The Author
Steve G. Jones is a board certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. He is a member of the National Guild of Hypnotists, American Board of Hypnotherapy, president of the American Alliance of Hypnotists, on the board of directors of the Los Angeles chapter of the American Lung Association, and director of the California state registered Steve G. Jones School of Hypnotherapy.
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I have a friend who gives me advice. On the surface, he seems like a good person to go to for advice. His family is happy and healthy. He is an entrepreneur who does what he loves everyday. He thrives on the competition of the business world and enjoys socializing with other people in his industry. He does have one major problem. He has what are politely called “anger issues.” In fact, if he is not your friend, he can be very mean and scary.
I heard about his scare tactics when we became friends a few years ago. One of his competitors had crossed the line and become his enemy. At a social gathering, he told a group of us that he called his new enemy every day to remind him that he was out to get him. Every day! I had a brief encounter with a stalker and know that first hand that negative attention on a daily basis is emotionally draining. Why would someone with all the trappings of success commit to terrorizing someone?
First, let me mention that I might have been the only person who thought his campaign of terror was disturbing. Other people at the table laughed. Some listened intently as if they might use his tactics in the future. At the time I could not relate. I was also very young and inexperienced in the world of competition.
Second, I will admit that my views of social rules change as I grow through life. When there wasn’t lot at stake, it found it easier to forgive and forget. Now, when something I value is in jeopardy, it is highly unlikely that I will walk away. That’s just a little background and maybe some justification because I found myself acting like my friend recently and I shocked myself with how easy it is to engage hate and anger.
I don’t pretend to not be human. My ideals are high and my resistance is low. Being Christian gives me parameters and great examples. Being ambitious makes me think beyond limits and doesn’t always attract the best influences. At some point we all have to come to terms with the different parts of personalities and I had a tremendous wake up call this week.
Classic scenario: the person has caused problems for me before. Other people convinced me that it was all some kind of misunderstanding. I thought I should be more forgiving so I stepped right into harm’s way. There is an old expression, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” A year ago, I would have repeated that saying and moved on. Things have changed.
Real harm was being done and I began to reflect on my friend’s advice. I welcomed that challenge to become an enemy. My friend didn’t invent these tactics. Sun Tzu writes similar advice in The Art of War and Macchiavelli’s The Prince is based on the same principles. I got completely caught up in psychological warfare for a few days. A few days is enough. Accepting the challenge to be an enemy is just an invitation to do damage to yourself.
As I get older, I am becoming more convinced that there are people who are not conscious of their actions. They destroy everything around them and they don’t even notice. I remember a cartoon character named “Schleprock.” He would walk by buildings and they would crumble. He would touch a table and the legs would fall from underneath. Everywhere he went he left a pile of rubble in his wake. People would run away when they saw him and Schleprock’s feelings were hurt. He had no idea about the devastation he caused because he never turned around to look!
My scenario involved a “Schleprock.” Only God can prevent the kind of damage that this kind of person does. As for protecting yourself, Sun Tzu would say “attack by fire” and destroy everything around your enemy. Macchiavelli advises us that it is better to be feared than admired. My friend would tell me to embrace the challenge. The Bible says to turn the other cheek. I’m going to accept that there are some things in this world that are beyond my understanding and do what people did in the Saturday morning cartoon. When I see a Schleprock coming, I’ll just run in the other direction.
Dr. LaMar researches, writes, and speaks about mentoring relationships among professional women. She also consults with growing businesses about how personality and processes can affect workplace dynamics. Her books “God Provdes The Sacrifice: Women Discuss Making Their Hardest Decision” and “Drama Free Workplace can be purchased in e-book format from her web sites.
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A recent WorldWIT member survey showed that eighty percent of respondents had seen a rise in the use of profanity at work. That’s no secret - no one would have guessed that things were headed in the opposite direction.
The survey respondents also said that profanity is one way that people deal with stress at work. Well, we all know that work is stressful. But how do you deal with a workplace where the language is a little stronger than you’re comfortable with?
Here are some tips for dealing with profanity at work:
1) Everyone has his or her own comfort level with strong language. The best way to make your own tolerance level known is to comment (gently) when you hear something that’s just too harsh for your ears. You can say, “Yikes!” or “Eek!” or make some other exclamation, and then gently add, “Can I bother you to find a less colorful expression?” Ninety-five percent of people will get the hint.
2) It’s important to distinguish between profanity that is used generally to let off steam, and profanity that is directed at a person. Its one thing to say, “This situation sucks, ” (a word which many people don’t even view as profane anymore) and another thing to say, “Joe Smith sucks in his job.” Even if you don’t mind mild profanity in general, it’s perfectly appropriate to say “You know, that’s not really a great way to talk about a colleague.”
3) If you are overwhelmed by very strong language in your workplace, speak to your manager. People who are offended by profanity very often feel hesitant to speak up, because they fear that they won’t be viewed as sufficiently hard-core and tough about their jobs. Companies are becoming more diverse, and part of diversity is embracing all sorts of communication styles and values. No one should have to work in an F-this, F-that environment if they’re not comfortable.
4) If you use more profanity at work than you’d like to, try cultivating a milder expression in the place of your most-often-used cuss words. Here are a bunch of tried-and-true substitutes: Judas Priest! Oh, fudge! Oh, sugar! If you fear that you’ll sound like Samantha from “Bewitched,” don’t worry; there are worse things. Better to be viewed as Tinkerbell than as a potty mouth.
5) Take a quick ‘pulse’ survey in your office to find out what level of profanity is comfortable with your co-workers. HR or your manager can construct a quick online survey using Zoomerang.com, and find out where people’s comfort level lies. Some offices steer clear of even “hell” and “damn;” others stop at those two expressions. In some offices, the use of the long form of ‘mofo’ is as common as the use of ‘ this’ and ‘that.’ Find out what makes your teammates comfortable and what makes them edgy - then you can adjust your office norms to that standard.
Liz Ryan is a former Fortune 500 HR executive, a workplace expert and the CEO of WorldWIT, the online network for professional women at http://www.worldwit.org She lives in Boulder, Colorado.
Over one hundred years ago, during the Victorian era, death and grief were popular subjects for poems, songs and stories. Grieving was considered a natural and acceptable part of the culture. People in mourning wore black clothing and/or black arm bands, women wore black veils, and it was common to see a black wreath on the door of the home of a bereaved family, announcing publicly that this was a home of sorrow. Bereavement was conspicuous and there were very specific societal customs designed to support people during the mourning process.
However, during that same era, no person of breeding or gentility would ever openly mention sex! Even any reference to gender was carefully couched in delicate terminology. Arms and legs were referred to as “limbs” and they were covered almost completely. Any form of touching or even intimacy of language was carefully proscribed by the customs of the time. Sex was a taboo subject, and it was largely considered to be dirty, shameful, disgusting, and for most women, barely tolerable!
How different it is now–over one hundred years later! We have done a cultural 180 degree turn. Now, sex has become a subject (and a commodity) that is fair game for every movie and TV screen. It is generally exploited in newspapers and magazines and is commonly and widely used as a sales promotion gimmick.
On the other hand, grief and mourning have suddenly become the closeted issue. In many circles it is not considered polite or in good taste to forthrightly mention the sadness caused by death. Well-mannered bereaved people are expected to keep their pain private and silent. Sometimes, even employment is endangered by any visible sign of emotion.
But both of these conditions–sex and death–are normal, natural parts of the human experience, and, ironically, they are both connected to love. In a truly healthy society, neither sex nor death should be subjects that we ought to fear or loathe or avoid.
It would seem that our current preoccupation with aberrant, bizarre and overabundant sex might be a backlash effect of the hush-hush of the Victorian era. Whenever we create an aura of “forbidden fruit” around any phenomena, we often give it an appealing mystery that makes it more intriguing to investigate in somewhat less healthy ways. When the bans are lifted (as they were for sex in our country in the late 1960s), all cautions can often be thrown aside in favor of an almost insane overreaction.
Unless we liberate mourning from its current place of hiding and unacceptability, we are in danger of having a similar backlash of bizarre proportions in the next ten or twenty years. Sometime in the twenty-first century, grieving could possibly acquire some amazingly out-of-control rituals.
We need to declare our own freedom from the restraints concerning dying and grieving that have been placed on us by a frightened and cobbled society. Let us kindly, but firmly, declare our rights to feel and express our pain in ways that are healthy and open. With that right, of course, comes the responsibility to do no harm either to others or to ourselves.
With kindness and a “do-no-harm” attitude, we can take a firm stand on the solid ground of our rights. We can cry, speak about our losses if we want to, verbalize our memories, safely express our anger and frustrations, withdraw for awhile, be confused and disoriented, solicit and expect help and support, and (maybe most important of all) make no apologies for our condition. We need never crumble under the criticism of those who have not walked in our sandals.
The number is legion of well-meaning caregivers who appoint themselves experts in determining what is “best” for us, so we need to claim for ourselves the basic freedom to trust and follow our own instincts and to disentangle our emotions from their benevolent chains. We have the right to gently explain to them that we’ve been where they are, but they have not been where we are. We don’t even expect them to understand us, but we what do expect—even require—is that they take our word for it when we tell them how it is.
Viva freedom!
Good Grief Resources (http://www.goodgriefresources.com) was conceived and founded by Andrea Gambill whose 17-year-old daughter died in 1976. In 1977, she founded one of the earliest chapters of The Compassionate Friends, an international bereaved-parent support group. In 1987, she founded and edited Bereavement magazine, and in 2000, she joined Centering Corporation as Editor of their new magazine, Grief Digest. Twenty eight years of experience in grief support has provided valuable insights into the unique needs of the bereaved and their caregivers and wide access to many excellent resources.
Most of us grow up believing that we each have a purpose or a
destiny. I also believe that to be so. Unfortunately, many blame
their destiny on so many different elements of their lives. I do
believe there are certain circumstances or factors that
interfere or change our destiny that are beyond our control.
What I do believe however, is that the way we approach these
challenges or obstacles can also alter the outlook of things.
Let’s take for instance the philosophy of the paths we take. We
each walk down a path in life. Our paths can have many forks in
them, some more than others. We may not be able to choose the
path we are on but we can choose to turn right or left. What do
we do when we realize we have made a wrong turn? It sounds so
simple; we just turn around and go back. Sometimes that is not
an option so we move forward waiting for the next fork in hopes
that our next turn will lead us back on the correct path.
What do we do when we walk so far only to find an obstacle
blocking the path we want to take? We could try to turn around
or stop and let that obstacle hinder us from moving on. We could
bravely climb over that obstacle or what if it was so easy to
walk around it? There is no correct answer, except in our
hearts.
The most important aspect is that we have a choice. We have the
freedom to choose. We may not like the choices presented to us,
but we do a have a choice. Sometimes we feel life is unfair,
that no matter which path we take we are challenged with more
obstacles than our neighbor.
Who can we blame? Who can we depend on? Some of us rely on our
faith to help us through our difficult journeys while the rest
of us are left to figure out what our faith really is. Some of
us blame our neighbor for our obstacles in life while some blame
God. How do we get past blaming anyone? We choose to do so. What
happens to those that never get past the blame stage?
I do not have an answer. I can only hope that one day they
realize that they have to make the choice to move on and to
accept the good with the bad. What would life be without its ups
and downs? It would not be life. Things do happen for a reason.
We may not seem to understand these things now but we have to
move on.
We have to continue living in hopes that we can learn from our
past and that our experiences give us the will to live better
lives. If not sculpt the being that we have become but perhaps
reinforce the appreciation of life itself. With all hopes to
find peace within our precious lives and not be a tormented
soul.
We hear a lot about depression today. I seems everyone is on some medication for depression, ADD, or ADHD, but do we really understand it or know what to do if we sense someone is severely depressed or suicidal?
I have suffered from depression for most of my life. I’m 50 now and just learning how to recognize the symptoms before they take hold and how to deal with them. When I was growing up, depression was not talked about. People feared they would be thought of as being crazy, so they never admitted to feeling this way. They thought people would look at you differently or be afraid to associate with you. They were too embarrassed to discuss their feelings, so they did not seek help. How sad was that? Do you know how different my life could have been had I or someone else realized I suffered from depression and I got help?
Depression was hereditary in my family so it would not have been unusual for me to suffer from it. My uncle tried to commit suicide several times and was institutionalized at one point. My aunt tried to commit suicide. My Dad was told he desperately needed help and my mother tried to commit suicide twice. Once was when she was pregnant with me and the other time was when my brother and I left home within months of each other and she felt she had nothing left to live for. Of course, I did not know all this until years later. Had I known, I may have recognized the symptoms. I would have been able to get help instead of struggling and not knowing why I had no energy, or slept all the time or had such low self-esteem. Medication may have helped. It is not the answer to everything, and in some cases can make things worse, but I would like to have had the option to know if it would have made a difference in my life. It would have made those years so much more bearable and possibly changed the course of my future.
If someone you know is, or might be suffering from depression, please urge them to seek help. You may think that suicide only happens in other families, but my daughter and I came dangerously close to losing her best friend this past week. Why? Because we did not take her talk of suicide seriously or realize just how depressed she was. Especially with children and teens, we tend to write if off as just “those difficult” teenage years. We may think they are just being moody. Do not take that chance. You do not want to wonder if there was some sign you missed or something you could have done and live with the guilt the rest of your life.
Here are some signs to look for:
Change in sleeping patterns. Sleeping more than usual or unable to sleep at all.
Lack of interest in anything or taking pleasure in things they once enjoyed.
Irritability. They are very sensitive and get upset at things or comments that normally would not bother them.
Withdrawal. Because they feel different and may not understand what is happening, they withdraw from their friends. They will not leave the house and feel it is easier to avoid their friends that to have them think they are crazy. They do not understand why they may sleep so much or feel so bad. My daughters’ friend thought people would think she was just lazy and judge her, so she avoided contact.
Change in eating patterns or physical condition. They may stop having an interest in food, lose weight or vomit due to stress.
Talk of suicide. Do not make the mistake of thinking this is just talk. It may be or it could be a cry for help, but do not take that chance. Get them to a doctor or psychiatrist whether they want to go or not. You may risk making them mad at you or saying they will not forgive you, but the alternative is much worse.
I have experienced all of the above symptoms but like a lot of people, did not recognize them for what they were. I thought of suicide of but never voiced it. I almost followed through on it on a particularly bad day. It was only by the grace of God that a friend stopped by unexpectedly, which she never did, or I might not be here right now.
Many people at one time or another may have had thoughts of suicide. They may have made statements that they would be better off dead, but they were just fleeting thoughts for most, made out of anger or stress. For those that are deeply depressed, they are more than that. I wanted to think I would never really follow through. I could not hurt my family that way. I remember being furious with my Mom when I found out she had tried, yet found myself in the same situation years later. That is why it is so important to never take it lightly. We often do things we could not imagine in a million years doing. Yet, we never know when we will hit rock bottom and feel like we cannot get up. When you are in that place, your thoughts are not rational. You are not thinking of the people you would hurt, you just want out of your pain. After being “saved by the bell” when my friend stopped by, it hit me what it would have done to my daughter had I succeeded. She would have experienced the same anger I felt at my mother. She may have experienced guild and wonder what she could have done to stop me.
That was a wake up call for me. I had been in counseling before, but it had always left me more depressed than when I started. Focusing on where I went wrong and how my life was nothing like I expected, just left me feeling worse and guiltier than before. Of course, guilt was my middle name. I felt everything was always my fault and I deserved how my life had turned out. I must have been jinxed or being punished for something. It’s amazing the thoughts we have when we are in that frame of mind.
Last February was a particularly difficult time for me. Fortunately, I was now able to recognize the signs of depression and know when I was slipping into one. I knew I needed to seek help. I was hesitant because of my past experiences with psychologists, but I knew I had to try.
I was lucky enough to be referred by my family physician to a wonderful woman. I feel she truly changed and possibly saved my life. I am stronger now than I have ever been. I have learned not to define myself by my physical limitations and that I have a lot to offer. I no longer feel guilty for things I had no control over. She made me realize that the more I focused on what was wrong, the longer my life would stay in that condition. She taught me to let go of the past if I wanted to have a future. I could not change what had happened in my past, but I could change my attitude, accept where I was today and move forward with joy and anticipation.
If you or someone you know has been to counseling and feels it did not help, do not let that stop them from trying again. I found the key; just like in a friendship, is finding someone you connect with and feel comfortable with. Each relationship is different. Help is there if you really want it.
When suicide occurs, the worst part is that the family members are left to suffer with the guilt. They ask themselves if there was something that they could have done that would have made a difference. I have witnessed attempts in my own family and wondered the same thing. Had I done something to make my mother want to take her life? What had I missed? Why did I not look closer to see she was hurting? Once you have experienced this, you are never the same. Never treat a statement of suicide lightly. Do not think it cannot happen to you. You do not want to be left asking “what was it I did not see? Why did I not try harder to understand?”
Life is a gift to be treasured. Each individual has something of value to offer this world. Do not take anything for granted. Live in the moment. Really see the beauty around you and never pass up a chance to tell the people you love how you feel about them. See each day as if for the first time, and live it as if it were your last. Tim McGraw sings in one of his songs, “I hope you get the chance to live as if you were dying.” If you knew you were, you would want to do all the things you never dared, see all the things you wanted to see, and tell everyone you loved how you felt. Today can be that day. Do it now. Cherish it and never forget how precious life is.
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Angela Thompson is the owner of a cleaning company, has a Realtor’s License and has been involved in several home-based businesses. She and her daughter are currently independent distributors for Mia Bella Gourmet Candles. Her desire is to help people realize their potential and fulfill their goals.
The “devil depression” hits now and then and makes our lives miserable. We feel blue and gradually it becomes a habit. Blame it on life and the unfortunate incidents in life that was beyond our control. But only few incidents of life where we proved ourselves to be unlucky do not have enough reasons to lead a life of frustration and depression. This life is a gift of God and we deserve to be happy and healthy through out our life.
Trust me, it is not that easy to challenge the depression within you, but it is not tough either. You just need to love yourself and realize that you deserve to be happy! Just follow the simple tips mentioned below;
- Set small goals on daily basis. When you get up in the morning, decide what you are going to do for the day. If you are to submit a work assignment, make it your goal for the day. Put serious efforts to accomplish that job and take it to a level of your personal satisfaction. If there is no assignment pending for the day, make it a point that you do not leave anything pending for the next day, you finish your days work within the 8 and hours, of course without having to stay back. This will make your everyday a special day! And believe me! These small efforts will boost your self confidence. Practice this for a week.
- Try to remember what you enjoyed doing the most, I mean a long forgotten hobby, anything you like under the sun! Fishing? Doing the garden? Reading, playing guitar, listening to music? Playing foot ball? Swimming? Think of an activity you enjoy doing most and devote an hour to that. Make it a point to do that everyday, and do not let anything upset your daily routine. This is the way to love yourself and this activity will relax your inner self and you will start enjoying your daily life.
- Engage yourself in physical exercise everyday at least for 15/20 minutes. This will increase the blood flow and fill you with energy and activate the hormone secretion in the body that is required to keep the body and mind healthy and happy. Remember, there is a very close connection between body and mind; a healthy mind can live in a health body and vice versa. So, take care of your health, if required go to a doctor for regular check up and make sure that you are physically alright.
- Do not sit idle, when depression hits, you may feel lethargic; you will not feel like leaving the bed and may sleep all day during your weekends. Avoid doing so. Make plans, go out and meet people, go for a picnic or anything you enjoy doing, but not alone, with a person or a group of persons you like to be with. But, NEVER SIT IDLE.
- At last, find out someone trustworthy and speak your heart out. You will be able to vent out your inner frustration and if you feel like crying, do that. There is no shame in crying in front of a person, whom you know to care for you. Crying is a way of expressing pain that is given by God. So do cry sometimes, you will feel better. If you are not comfortable talking to someone, keep a journal or diary, and pour down your thought on that. Writing down what you feel will give you relief from your inner frustration and suppressed anger, may be that was a hidden reason behind your depression. Talking heart to heart or writing down sometimes can bring some unknown facts about your own self to light. So do that!
Follow the simple ways so that you can help yourself in the mission of leading a happy life, so that you do not have to opt for depression and anxiety medications like Xanax. Life is worth living till you love yourself, trust me, every man and woman have something special which no other person has. You are worth being loved and you worth the happiness knocking at your door. Just open the door to happiness and start living.
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Part One
I am often reminded of a short, but valuable story I read years ago that goes as follows:
‘THE POWER OF WORDS’
by Author Unkown
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead.
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.
When he got out, the other frogs said, “Did you not hear us?” The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
This story gives us thoughts to think about:
1. An encouraging word to someone who is down can encourage them to achieve their goal.
2. A destructive word to someone who is down can have negative effects. Be careful of what you say.
The quote below is by Master Mark Russell ( www.markrussell.net ). His quote describes “words” very accurately:
“Words:
The Snow may look smooth and soft,
but the rocks underneath are sharp!”
One last point,
Are your words encouraging?
The above story and statement are part of what makes or breaks any organization. Whether you have a small business, large corporation, club, church, or any other function that meets with more than one person (also keep in mind the very words we say to ourselves are also harmful or helpful), what you say or do not say and how and when you say it is extremely important.
One such example is the work place, your typical nine to five job or the business you strive so hard to keep running smoothly. It is always a bad thing when your employees and or co-workers are not flowing as a ‘team’, when one person is not around to hear what is being said about them, but the conversation about them is less than desired. …did you hear what ___________ did”… or …”I can not believe that ___________ did not do this”… or …”_________ said this”… .
STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP
Listen to yourself, what and or how would you feel and or react if you knew that others were chatting like this about you when you are not around?
Of course you may be like some and say …”oh, those are only words and they do not matter”… . You may state that …”what others say is not important to and with you”… .
May I suggest, what is said does matter!
Guaranteed for most people, though they say …”it is no big deal, words are just words”… . This is a flippant statement to cover-up their ‘hurt’.
One of the oldest techniques for destroying any organized military is to get the troops in disarray, one such successful tactic is to get rid of the general. You see if you have an issue with your boss and or owner of the organization you work with or for you should go to them in private and on a personal level. DO NOT bad mouth your ‘general’ (boss/owner), to other employees, this knocks him/her down in the respect level that should be in place (not as a tyrant, but as a manager/owner).
Bad mouthing your boss or a fellow employee(s) is like a cancer, it begins small and then if not treated it will grow and grow until it has over taken it’s host body (your place of employment / business).
Note: I have a rule that those who associate with me know and they know it well and to be true-no exceptions! I will not talk bad about anyone, nor will I listen to anyone talk bad about someone! Sure like most people, a ‘good juicy story’ is very, very tempting to indulge in, but to stop, say no and walk away is so much better. You feel great later when you see the person(s) that were being bad mouthed, with the knowledge that you stood firm and did not take part in their verbal slaughter..you can look them straight in the eye and feel great about doing it.
